“Lost time is never found again”. — Benjamin Franklin
Not too long ago, my seven year old son asked me if I were too busy for him? He had an upcoming recital at school and asked if I had time to hear him speak on George Washington. I’m sure that you can understand the overwhelming emotional response I gave, “Of course son…I’ll be there.” In the back of my mind, however, I thought, “There is something wrong with this question. My son had to ask me this convicting question to assure that I had enough time for him? He probably sees dad as often too busy for even the most “seemingly” insignificant things. How busy are you? As a driven person, I always find myself attempting to “balance” so that I can give everyone and everything equal amounts of my time.
I work with many couples in particular in our ministry. I have noticed a common underlying issue that seems to come up quiet frequently and that is this thing of busyness. That irony of it is that good people are doing “a lot” of good things but not necessarily putting efforts to doing the best things.
- Busyness often distorts our communication.
I heard a national survey once suggested that we spend less that 3 minutes a day in meaningful conversations with our spouse. Why? Because we are too busy. We are too distracted.
- Busyness often distorts our cause.
The Apostle Paul said it best, “This one thing I do…” What is your cause? What are the things that you were created to do? Are you really doing it effectively or are you doing it partially because you are too busy doing everything else as well.
- Busyness often distorts our commitment.
Everyone has commitments. We all have priorities. Never allow your duties to conflict. For example, my position and service in the church should not overshadow my commitment to my family. My family is first and foremost. If you are like me, your ministry is your life. Hence, it can become very easily intertwined. Yes, my family and I serve together in ministry but that does not mean that the ministry gets priority and my family gets to tag along.
I love this quote by John Wesley, “Though I am always in haste, I am never in a hurry; because I never undertake any more work than I can go through with perfect calmness of spirit.”